After living in the city the majority of my life my family and I moved to a small-town farming community in Iowa. We were tired of the chaos, the crime, the commotion.
We longed for simplicity, peace, and quiet. The city is a minute drive from our home.
I thought a gal pal would be great. I thought, maybe making a friend in Iowa City will be good for me. I thought, she can show me the lay of the land and we can check out the sights while learning from one another.
I thought this will be super cool. I decided to check out the Strictly Platonic on Craigslist. Some of the I read were off the chart. Do not try to fuck me.
I decided to place my own ad. The response I received was both over and underwhelming. I wondered, did my ad sound desperate?
I had one person me 11 times. Yes, 11 in a two-day span. I had only replied to her once after she sent the first .
By the 11thshe asked me to pick her up at the airport and take her to lunch. I felt stalked.
I also received this short but forward and to-the-point from another person. We can or text though.
I am interested in you and your life, by what you posted. Everything you said intrigues me. I used to love to write hand written letters. As to another writer.
Would love to hear from you. He replied with nothing that has to do with my ad.
Then there was this response. I get bored. My husband works days.
When he gets home from work, he just wants to watch television and I am itching to get out and visit or do something active. I can get out in the evenings and on weekends, but it is not fun to do things all alone. My sister and I used to do activities together but she is busy now with grandchildren.
I would like to know more about you. How perfect — what a relief. Finally, someone, I could connect with.
That was two weeks ago. At this point, my expectations have dropped quite a bit.
Is it my ad? Is it me? Is this a dumb idea? Should I go it alone? I never needed anyone else to be adventurous.
Why do I think I do now? Am I wasting valuable time while I could be checking out the sights?
Does the universe have some grand plan for me and I should patiently wait until it becomes clear? I asked myself all these questions and although my answers told me my efforts are unnecessary — I decided to create a new Craigslist ad this morning and give it another go.
This time I was more direct. If nothing else, I have learned from this experience. In reality, there are bizarre people out there.
Myself included. I want someone to hang out and see the sights with me but only need myself to actually do it. Perhaps the responses and replies I receive from my new ad will be different.
The friendship would be an added bonus, but not a necessary one. Erika Sauter is a writer, artist, agoraphobic manic depressive.
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